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Embrace Your Gifts and Fulfill God’s Purpose

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Week 1:  Foundational Lessons from the Letter “P”

Day 1: God Says I Am Precious, so I Am!

Day 2: I Am a Partaker of God’s Nature.

Day 3: My Passion (Heart) Is God-given.

Day 4: His Purpose Is My Perspective.

Day 5: Patience Brings God’s Peace.

Day 6: I Can Meet Obstacles with Perseverance.

Day 7: Précis: I Can Practice the Presence of God 24/7.

Week 2:  How Has God Made Me?

Day 8: What Are My Spiritual Gifts?

Day 9: What Are My Personality Strengths?

Day 10: Godly Character Trumps Weakness.

Day 11: What Am I Really Passionate About?

Day 12: I Can Embrace My Giftedness and Fulfill God’s Purpose!

Day 13: I Can Embrace My Personality and Fulfill God’s Purpose!

Day 14: With My Passion I Can Fulfill God’s Purpose!   

Week 3:  The Story of My Own Spiritual Journey

Day 15: When Was I First Aware that I Had a Relationship with Jesus?

Day 16: How Has He Guided My Life?

Day 17: What’s God Doing with Me Right Now?

Day 18: What’s in My Future with Jesus?

Day 19: I Can Blend My Story with His.

Day 20: I Will Walk in the Spirit.

Day 21: Spiritual Disciplines: It’s about “Want to” not “Have to”


Week 4:  The Gospel Message

Day 22: What Are the Four Spiritual Laws?

Day 23: How Can I Apply this Basis for Salvation Personally?

Day 24: Outreach through Service and the Word Need a Marriage.

Day 25: What’s Love Got to Do with It? – EVERYTHING!

Day 26: “Let It Happen” Versus “Make It Happen”

Day 27: I Have Circles of Influence.

Day 28: Love…Pray…Love…Pray…Love…Pray…Love…

Week 5:  In Community: Fishing the Ponds

Day 29: Visitors

Day 30: Sunday School

Day 31: Youth

Day 32: Small Groups

Day 33: Christian Schools, Preschools, and Day Care

Day 34: Community Involvement

Day 35: Events: “the Byways” …

 Week 6: Cults, Other Religions, Hard Questions, Agnostics, and Atheists

Day 36: How Do I Talk with Mormons (Latter Day Saints – LDS)?

Day 37: What if the Jehovah’s Witnesses (JWs) Come Knocking?

Day 38: How Can I Share My Faith with Muslim Friends?

Day 39: What Do I Need to Know about Eastern Religions: Hinduism, Buddhism…?

Day 40: How Do I Answer Hard Questions? “Why does God allow suffering?”

& 41: “How could a God of love send anyone to hell?”   “Why did God, in the Old

Testament, command the annihilation of women and children?”

Day 42: How Do I Talk with Agnostics and Atheists?

Day 44: Teaching My Friend how God “Speaks”

Day 45: Learning to Serve a 24/7 God, 24/7

Day 46: How Can I Nurture this New Relationship in Christ?

Day 47: I Need to Caution this New Believer: Beware of Religion without Relationship!

Day 48: How Does One Handle the Enemy? — His Pats on the Back … Temptation …

Day 49: Staying Focused: Growing a Disciple Who Will Grow Another

Day 50: Summing It All Up and Maintaining the Momentum

Appendix: About Win and Grow Ministries, Books, Websites, Assessments, and Acknowledgements


THE RELUCTANT EVANGELIST: Embrace Your Gifts and Fulfill God’s Purpose


Can you identify with the title?  If so, you are in good company.  Statistics reveal that about 95%* of believers do NOT have evangelism (telling others the Salvation Message) as a dominant gift.  This is a 50-Day journey designed to inspire, encourage, and equip ALL of us to share the message when God gives the opportunity.  The goals of this 50-Day journey (7 weeks and a day) are:

  • To deepen your relationship with God,
  • To increase your understanding of how God made you, and
  • To show you how to focus your gifts on fulfilling God’s purpose.

What is God’s purpose?  He simply wants to be in a relationship with every man, woman, boy, and girl.  Jesus stated it clearly in The Great Commission:  “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me.  Therefore, go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you.  And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age. (Mt. 28: 18-20)  The question is: “How can I do my part in fulfilling the Great Commission with my own God-given gifts?”  Perhaps you’ve put it differently:  “How can I do my part in winning souls and growing disciples, and still be comfortable in my own skin?”  Jesus included the promise of His presence.  His strength, wisdom, words, and timing come with it.

THE RELUCTANT EVANGELIST: Embrace Your Gifting and Fulfill God’s Purpose has two sections:


Jesus stood and said in a loud voice, “If anyone is thirsty, let him or her come to Me and drink.  Whoever believes in Me as the Scripture has said, streams of living water will flow from within in him.”  By this He meant the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive. (John 7:37-39)  The first three weeks of this journey will remind you of your preciousness to God.  You have put your trust in Jesus and the mercy and grace of God.  That same trust assures you of your immense value that is not based upon your performance but God’s demonstrated love. (Ro. 5:8)  You will get a handle on how God made you with your own spiritual gifts, personality, and passion.  Finally, it will help you to think deeply about your ongoing relationship with the Lord.


In your heart set apart Christ as Lord.  Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.  But do this with gentleness and respect.  (1Pe. 3:15)  This section contains a simple way of sharing the gospel in a relational way as God opens doors to do so.  It’s not about being obnoxious or confrontational.  It includes how to work within your own community of believers.  There is also a week devoted to cults, other religions, and hard questions.  Week 7 will help with discipling a new believer.

Each day begins with a story. I hope you enjoy this one:

We were at a Mariners game in Seattle.  Our two boys had just dropped their gloves into Mom’s lap and headed for the snack bar. As they reached the end of the aisle, Enrique Wilson hit a foul that had Dona’s name on it!  My wife plays catch by covering her head!  She sank deeper and deeper into her seat and looked up to see a frame of hands.  In the center was a white dot that was getting larger every second!  One of those hands was mine.  I one-handed that ball without dropping the sunflower seeds out of my other hand!  Dona let out her held breath.  Instantly, I became famous in our section.  My first thought was, “Big deal. I caught a foul ball.”  But as they continued I got into it!  “OK, cool!  It wasn’t a home run hit by Ken Griffey, Jr. but hey, what are the odds?!”

The foul ball is thinking that only 5%* of us can be personally involved in sharing the Gospel.  Do you “play catch by covering your head” when the door opens to share the gospel?  You’ve prayed for a loved one to come to know Christ.  That’s God’s passion for souls!  Let’s turn that foul into a HOME RUN!

As you read each day, write down your own thoughts.  In 50 days, you, perhaps a reluctant evangelist now, will be better able to embrace your gifts and fulfill God’s purpose.

Contact Dave Kachele:   626-905-2893   Find us at Win and Grow on Facebook and Twitter

*This statistic comes from, which offers a free on-line spiritual gift assessment. (Day 8)

“In your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.” 1 Peter 3:15


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Embrace Your Gifts and Fulfill God’s Purpose

by dave kachele

“With Win and Grow Ministries and THE RELUCTANT EVANGELIST:  Embrace Your Gifts and Fulfill God’s Purpose, Dave Kachele has provided a tool for two groups: any who want to jump-start the discipline of listening to God and any who want to take the next step in radical obedience to Him.  Our church used it. I recommend it.”

Dale Winslow, Senior Pastor, Foothill community Church, Azusa, CA

“THE RELUCTANT EVANGELIST: Embrace Your Gifts and Fulfill God’s Purpose is a challenging yet simple guide to share with friends, disciples, and neighbors.  For the person who has a healthy fear of sharing Christ with others, Dave Kachele does a wonderful job of demonstrating and guiding them into a place of confidence and peace.  Thank you, Dave, for writing such an outstanding resource!”

Dr. Rhonda Beckwith, Marriage and Family Therapist


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Embrace Your Gifts and Fulfill God’s Purpose

Why Are Most of Us “Reluctant Evangelists?”

“Evangelism” is simply communicating the Good News (Gospel) about Jesus Christ with the intent of helping someone else to know Him as you do.

Can you relate to the word “RELUCTANT” in the title?  If so, you’re in good company.  The Spiritual Gift Survey found at reveals that only about 3% of laity and 5% of clergy have evangelism as a dominant gift.

Here’s a story of a “Bumbling Evangelist.” (Day 26)

“A nice young couple lived around the corner from us.  I just knew they needed to know Jesus so we invited them over for dinner with the purpose in mind of leading them to Christ.  It was a long time ago, but I’m pretty sure they did pray the “sinner’s prayer” before they escaped.  Afterward however, we were never able to make contact again; a relationship never developed.  If discipleship occurred, it was without our influence. “

Spiritual mugging is not effective.  Maybe you’ve heard stories like this or you’ve been on the receiving or giving end of an episode like the one above.  Share your stories.

Besides hearing about or being involved in a “bumbling evangelist” episode, what hinders you from sharing the Gospel?  Below is a list. Check all that apply.

  • ___ I’m an introvert
  • ___ I don’t know what to say to someone about how to know the Lord.
  • ___ I’m better at showing the love of God than talking.
  • ___ I think showing God’s love is better than just talking.
  • ___ I don’t know where to look in the Bible to explain the Gospel.
  • ___ I’m afraid of being rejected or made fun of.
  • _______________________________________________________________________

How did you come to know Jesus?  If you’re in a small group, partner up with another person in the room and share your stories with one another. (Week 3)


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Embrace Your Gifts and Fulfill God’s Purpose

Why Shouldn’t We Be “Reluctant” to Share the Gospel?

As fully devoted followers of Jesus Christ, disciples, the Bible is our “Manual for Life.”

The apostle, Peter, summed up our identity and purpose in one verse:

“…You are a chosen people (person), a royal priesthood (priest or priestess), holy (set apart), a people (person) belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of Him Who called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.” 1 Peter 2:9

What else does the Bible say about helping others to come to know Jesus?

Matthew 22:36-40, Mark 12:29-31

“Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”  Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, … soul, … mind, … and strength.’  This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’  All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

Matthew 28:18-19

“Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to Me.  Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the Name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you.  And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.” (Why is this last word here? I think Jesus knew this would be difficult for us.)

Romans 10:13-15, 17

“Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.  How, then, can they call on the One they have not believed in?  And how can they believe in the One of Whom they have not heard?  And how can they hear without someone preaching to them?  And how can anyone preach unless they are sent? … So, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the Word about Christ.”

Acts 2:42, 47

“They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. … And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.” (This wasn’t the work of an evangelist. It was just people loving people.)

1 Peter 3:15

“But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect. (Recall the 2nd line of this verse? The 1st is most important.)


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How Can We Overcome Our Reluctance to Share the Gospel

“On the last and greatest day of the feast, Jesus stood and said in a loud voice, ‘If anyone is thirsty, let him come to Me and drink.  Whoever believes in Me, as the Scripture has said, streams of living water will flow from within him.”

What gave Jesus the boldness to yell this out?

How can we overcome our reluctance to share His Gospel?

Feeding the Spring

First, we must fully accept who we are in Christ. You are PRECIOUS to God and a PARTAKER of His nature. Therefore, you have His PASSION and PERSPECTIVE to fulfill


“For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your forefathers, but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect.” (1 Peter 1:18-19)

What does the world say about your value?  What do you say about your value?

  • Knowing your real worth is the 1st and most important key to overcoming your reluctance to sharing the Gospel when God opens the door.
  • Understanding and accepting how God made you is the 2nd
  • Your ongoing Jesus story is about living IN the amazing love of the Father! This is the 3rd key in your eternal spring. (Weeks 1-3)

Letting the Living Water Flow  (Weeks 4-7)

Once your God-given value is engrained, you can express His love to people.

“…The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love.” (Galatians 5:6b)


  • Be natural.  Be relational.  Be real.  Abide in Jesus. Be oBEdient.
  • Be ready to tell your own story in just a few minutes.
  • Know the “4 Spiritual Laws”: LOVE; SEPARATION; REMEDY; RESPONSE
  • Remember that loving service opens doors to share the Gospel with words.
  • Love…Pray…Love…Pray…. Remember that the Holy Spirit is always drawing.
  • Know, pray for, and look for “God moments” within your Circles of Influence
  • Work with and within community
  • “Make It Happen” so you’re ready for “Let It Happen” moments
  • Be ready to disciple a new believer


THE RELUCTANT EVANGELIST: Embrace Your Gifting and Fulfill God’s Purpose

Feeding the Spring: Foundational Lessons from the Letter “P”

Day One: God Says I Am Precious, so I Am!

            For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed …but with the PRECIOUS blood of Christ … (1 Pe. 1:18-19)

Mom sent me to the store with a $50 bill. I was about 10 years old.  I don’t know how I lost it, but I was afraid, going home with the news and NO GROCERIES!  But when I told my mom she said, “It’s okay Honey; it’s only money.”  She spent her whole life showing me and others how precious they were.  What really gives us value?  From whom do we accept value assessments?

When Jesus came up out of the water, the Father spoke from heaven.  “This is my Son, whom I love; with Him I am well pleased.” (Mt. 3:17)  Jesus had not yet begun His ministry: no preaching good news to the poor, no restoring sight to the blind, no feeding the multitudes, no cross and resurrection … no work.  Yet His Father said He was well pleased with Him.

Jesus was once asked, “What must we do to do the works God requires?”  His answer was simple and profound.  “The work of God is this: believe in the One He has sent.” (Jn. 6:28-29)  His love is not conditional upon works.

Ask yourself, “What could I do (or not do) to add to (or take away from) the worth that God has already bestowed upon me by His redemption with the precious blood of His Son?  Could I somehow diminish or add to the intrinsic value God has given me through the sacrifice of Jesus?” (Ro. 5:8)  Performance based value must be nailed to the cross!  Look Failure in the face…smile…and rest in God’s grace.  This will allow you to learn to serve out of the rest that comes from Him. (Heb. 4:9-11)

Open your Bible, go to John 3:16, and pray it inserting your name in the appropriate places: For God so loved _______ ….  Now,  just stop for a moment.  Bow your head and receive afresh (or, perhaps for the first time) the love of God, demonstrated to you through Jesus.  Soak it in.  Our preciousness must become engrained and embedded in our minds.  Let your being be immersed in His love and acceptance.  Know, down deep, that you are precious just because God says so, has proven it by the cross, and validated it by the resurrection!

What does this do for you?

  1. It sets you free to live out the fruit of His Spirit because of “want to” not “have to”. (Gal. 5:22-23)
  2. Fully understanding your worth, you can freely show others theirs. (Mt. 22:39)
  3. When the world batters you with its empty philosophy, you can turn your head, mount up on wings as an eagle, and rise above it.                   (Isa. 40:28-31)
  4. You can uphold yourself with this biblical fact when you’re tempted to be depressed and discouraged: “God says I’m precious, so I am.”  (Eph. 6:10-18)
  5. Since your value is not based on what you do, you “can do” without fear. (1 Jn. 4:16-18)

Understanding your preciousness is the bottom line, the foundational basis,

for all of your life as a fully dedicated follower of Jesus Christ, a disciple.

            Lord Jesus, help me to know, deep in my being, how precious I am to You, and as I do, help me to understand how precious others are to You.  Please give me Your eyes and Your heart for myself and for everyone else.  Thank You, Lord.

Journaling: Write down some of the ways the Lord has shown you how precious you are to Him.

Other passages for your prayerful consideration: Mt. 5-7; Jn. 2:23-25; 5:41-44; 6:1-15; 13:34-35; 15: 1-12; 17:20-23; Php. 2: 5

THE RELUCTANT EVANGELIST: Embrace Your Gifting and Fulfill God’s Purpose

Feeding the Spring: Foundational Lessons from the Letter “P”

Day Two: I Am a Partaker of God’s Nature.

            His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of Him who called us by His own glory and goodness.  Through these He has given us His very great and precious promises, so that through them you might become partakers in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires. (2 Pe. 1:3-4, NIV, NASB) 

One of the greatest compliments I’ve ever received came written on a Father’s Day Card from my son, Richard.  He wrote, “When I was at home, I’d wake up, go in the kitchen, and see my dad reading his Bible.  Now I’m a man and when I get up, I start my day reading my Bible.”  I’m glad he didn’t “partake” of some of the other “nature” he saw in me!

A few years ago, I was telling Richard about how the ministry concept of Win and Grow was forming in my mind.  When I finished, he had only one little bit of advice. “Dad, just be the branch.” (Jn. 15:1-8)   It was so simple, yet so profound.  Just be connected to Jesus, and live like you know you are!

  1. You want to know God’s will?  Just be the branch.
  2. You want to do God’s will?  Just be the branch.
  3. Need victory over temptation?  Just be the branch.
  4. You want to touch another life?  Just be the branch.

God is imparting His very nature into us!  This is an amazing fact!  His passion, His purposes, His thoughts, His dreams are becoming ours!  Incredible!

Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Ps. 37:4)  Does this mean God will give us whatever we want?  Try this interpretation: He will place desires into your heart.  He will make your heart like His.  That may sound crazy, but the Word says you are partaking of His nature.

I can hear you asking, “OK, what do I have to do?”  Flip through Philippians with me: He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion … Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus … it is God who works in you to will and to act according to His good purpose … that I may gain Christ and be found in Him … I can do everything through Him Who gives me strength … My God will meet all your needs …. (Php. 1:6, 2:5 & 13, 3:9, 4:13 & 19)

I like the way the King James Version states Php. 2:5.  It says, “Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.”  Yes, we have to do something.  We have to do the letting and our Emmanuel, God with us, will do the rest.

One last thought: In the center of the word “obey” is “BE”.  Fully submit your heart to the Lord every day; then just BE yourself – just BE the branchHe will express Himself through you. (Gal. 5:6b; Eph. 2:10)

Father, help me to just be the branch allowing You to speak and act through me.  Thank You, Lord.

Journaling: Make a list of the fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22-23) and other aspects of God’s nature that come to mind.  Think about how He is imparting these qualities into your life and transforming you into the image of His Son, Jesus.


Other passages for your prayerful consideration:

Mt. 28:20b; Jn. 14:16-18, 23, 15:1-8, 16:7-15; Gal. 5:6b; Heb. 13:5b; 1 Jn. 4:16-17

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